And though it all seems so unfair, No one’s to blame when love’s not there…
The End Spectrum
Many love songs in this common era have managed to corner every possible reason for a relationship break up.
They tell the tale of
- The angry spouse,
- The lonely spouse,
- The cheating etc
They also tell the tales of the victims.
- The lonely individual,
- The broken individual
- The torn and still missing their ex individual,
- The invidual who is picking themselves off,
- The Individual who has moved on but secretly still loves/hates their old partner etc
My two favourites on the extreme ends of the ‘handling being dumped’ spectrum (that is complete dispair and hope) come in the shape of Janet Jackson’s I Get Lonely and Freemasons’ Love on my mind, respectively. They both display real strong powerful messages to which everything else fits in.
The Powerful Optimistic Exit
Freemasons – Love on my Mind
The Powerful Pessmistic Exit
Janet Jackson – I Get Lonely
However There is this one gem that sits perfectly in the centre of this spectrum, all alone.
The Completely Powerless Exit
A large majority of love songs tell tales of relationships that happen to go out on a bang, but this isn’t always the case in real life.
There are times (and I believe these are the hardest times) when a relationship fails for no obvious reason what so ever. Sometimes both partners can give it their all and while they cannot provide any fundamental reason why there is a problem (some may not even realise there is a problem in the first place), they have issues keeping that spark alit. This makes it all of the more distressing when the spark had been a supernova in the relationship’s infancy.
The most painful of these scenarios is when only one partner realises this, while the other one remains oblivious. The agonising plot twist is that the one who realises ISN’T the one who wants to end it but the reciprient of a dwarfing (or even stagnant) but unnoticed love, from their partner.
For the sake of argument let’s name them Jack (the one who knows) and Jane (the one who isn’t aware there is a problem)
Jack notices that somewhere deep inside Jane, the Yin to his respective Yang, behind all the sharades and smiles, regardles of what their she thinks, her subconcious heart no longer holds his.
Regardless of how insignificant his existance would be without her, Jack succumbs to the knowledge that he cannot provide her with the aura of total completeleness and contentment that she provides him.
Once his eyes are open to this discovery, they never close…ever…as heartache doesn’t blink. It becomes hard to live with continuously open eyes (try it, for even a minute), the pretence is too much to bear.
The lie he live engulfs everything absolutely.
So with the pain of all their hopes and dreams torn from him (by his own hands), the anger of her still unknowing, confusion towards him and the hope that comes with setting Jane free to cherish and be fully cherished alike, He lets her go.
He displays the ultimate sacrifice. A life, for a life…..
Eric Benet’s Masterpiece’Come as you Are’ tells the story of such an individual, who is comtemplating salvaging one more night of ‘passion’, before letting the only person who’s ever meant anything to them free and forever shutting the door to any future glimpse of love.
Going by this evidence alone, who would dare says there’s no such thing as a selfless act…